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Mindset Mondays: Michael Gervais — The Concept of FOMO

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What is the single greatest constrictor of human potential? It’s not a lack of talent. It’s not a lack of work ethic. It’s a four-letter acronym coined by high-performance psychologist Dr. Michael Gervais: FOPO: Fear of Other People’s Opinions. The moment you start playing to not look bad instead of playing to win , FOPO has won. In sports and in life, human beings are evolutionarily wired to crave social acceptance. Thousands of years ago, being disliked by the tribe meant exile and death. Today, that ancient software manifests as intense anxiety before a big game, a presentation, or a risky move. We worry about what the fans, the coaches, our parents, or random people on social media will say if we mess up. But here is the truth about elite performance: You cannot play fearlessly if you are constantly holding your breath for applause. When you operate out of FOPO, you play tightly. You play conservatively. You make the safe pass instead of the game-changing play. FOPO turns aggressi...
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What I Learned this Week: RARE Leadership

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In their book Rare Leadership: 4 Uncommon Habits for Increasing Trust, Joy, and Engagement in the People You Lead, Marcus Warner and Jim Wilder, say halthy teams begin with healthy, emotionally mature leaders, and RARE is an acronym for the four habits of those types of leaders: R – Remain Relational Keep relationships bigger than problems. When challenges arise, focus on people first rather than simply fixing the issue.   A – Act Like Yourself Maintain your character and identity under pressure. People know what to expect from you because you remain consistent, even when emotions run high. R – Return to Joy Recover quickly from emotions such as fear, anger, shame, or discouragement. Help others return to a healthy, connected emotional state as well.   E – Endure Hardship Well Face adversity without losing your identity, relationships, or purpose. Use difficult experiences as opportunities for growth and deeper connection.   My biggest takeaway after readi...
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Teamwork Tuesdays: Dr. Joan Duda — Motivational Climate

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If you’ve ever been on a team where everyone was terrified of making a mistake, or on the opposite end, on a team where everyone was genuinely excited to get better, you have experienced what Dr. Joan Duda calls a motivational climate. Dr. Joan Duda, a world-renowned sport psychologist, expanded on Achievement Goal Theory to explain how the environment created by coaches, teachers, or leaders directly dictates an individual's happiness, grit, and performance. According to Duda, leaders establish one of two distinct climates: 1. Task-Involved / Mastery Climate (The Growth Zone) In a mastery climate, the focus is entirely on personal improvement, effort, and cooperation . The Vibe: Success is defined by doing your best and outperforming your past self. How Mistakes are Handled: Mistakes are viewed as natural, necessary data points for learning. The Result: Athletes have higher self-esteem, experience less anxiety, stick with the sport longer, and actually perform better under p...
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Mindset Mondays: Ken Ravizza — Red, Yellow, and Green Flush and Reset

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Dr. Ken Ravizza was a pioneer in sports psychology. His groundbreaking book, Heads-Up Baseball , shifted the focus from raw physical talent to mental toughness and present-moment focus. His core philosophy is simple: "Choose focus over results." In baseball — and in life — you cannot control the outcome. You can't control the umpire's call, the weather, or the spin on a curveball. You can only control your response to the present moment. Dr. Ravizza said there are so many times we play where the confidence just isn’t there, but confidence is fragile for all of us. He said the question is, “Do you have something to go to when you aren’t feeling great?” He said, “Feeling good is overrated.” The Core Concept: The Traffic Light System Ravizza taught athletes to monitor their mental state using a simple traffic light analogy. The goal isn't to stay perfect; it's to recognize when your mind is drifting and fix it. 🟢 Green Light (On): You are fully in the present m...
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What I Learned this Week: Michael Fullan — Motion Leadership

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This week, I learned leaders create meaningful change not by developing perfect plans, but by generating momentum through movement, learning, collaboration, transparency, and continuous action. The book, Motion Leadership: The Skinny on Becoming Change Savvy, ‘moved’ me because instead of talking about normal leadership topics like vision or strategy, author Michael Fullan focused on implementation and how to actually create change. It can be summed up by saying, “Be relentlessly consistent at doing what matters most while seeking continuous commitment." Here are some of my key takeaways: Get Skinny: You can move quickly when you identify and focus on what matters most — not a million different things. Ready-Fire-Aim: Don’t wait until you have the perfect plan — you never will. Get started. Implementation Dip: There will be a learning dip — keep going. Behaviors Before Beliefs: Everyone won’t be on board, see the vision, or believe in success at first — they will have to see it to...
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Mindset Mondays: Susan David — Emotional Agility

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Do you ever get tired of hearing people tell you to “just stay positive” when things aren’t going right? Sometimes, when life gets really hard, suppressing your true feelings and emotions and forcing a smile isn’t the answer. According to Harvard psychologist Susan David, suppressing difficult emotions doesn't make them disappear — it just makes them grow. In her book Emotional Agility , David argues that true resilience isn't about being happy all the time. It’s about how we navigate our inner world. When a difficult emotion hits — whether it's anger, anxiety, or imposter syndrome — most people react in one of two ways: The Bottler: You push the feeling down, pretend everything is fine, and march on. (Spoiler: It usually explodes later). The Brooder: You lose yourself in the emotion. You loop it on replay, obsessing over the wrongness of the situation, letting it cloud your entire day. In both scenarios, you are "hooked." Your emotions have hijacked your thoug...
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Mindset Mondays: Tara Scanlan — Have To vs Want To

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Commitment isn’t just about “willpower” — If you want it badly enough, you’ll stick with it. But sport psychologist Tara Scanlan proved that commitment isn't a single emotion — it’s a dynamic psychological formula. Her Sport Commitment Model breaks down exactly why we stay dedicated to a goal, or why our motivation burns out. If you want to master your mindset, you have to understand the forces pulling at your commitment. Scanlan’s research shows that commitment splits into two distinct psychological states: Enthusiastic Commitment ("Want To"): You push forward because of passion, joy, and a genuine desire to see what you are capable of. Constrained Commitment ("Have To"): You keep going because you feel trapped by obligation, guilt, or the fear of what others will think if you quit. The Mindset Shift: While both forces can keep you moving, Constrained Commitment is exhausting and leads straight to burnout. Long-term greatness requires building Enthusiasti...
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