A Coach's Diary

The most valuable lesson I’ve learned this week is how being a better communicator can lead to a better life. In a video on YouTube titled: “Leveling Up Your Life = Leveling Up Your Communication,” Myron Golden says, “If you learn to talk better, you will do better. In fact, the fastest, best, and most thorough way to level up your life is to level up your ability to communicate. The quality of your life is always going to be in direct correlation to the quality of your communication.” Golden says there are two types of communication: Internal Communication: What we say to ourselves External Communication: What we say to others. Internal communication is made up of our beliefs — the stories we tell ourselves about our expected outcomes. Most people tell themselves unfavorable stories and wonder why they get undesirable outcomes. If you get better at communicating with yourself and telling yourself better stories, every part of your life will get better. Positive thinking doesn’t nece...

Karl Weick is an organizational psychologist best known for one powerful idea: sensemaking — how people make meaning when things are unclear, chaotic, or changing.  Weick argued that leadership isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about helping people understand what’s happening and what to do next, especially when the path isn’t obvious. Weick showed that teams form culture by how they talk about what’s happening. When leaders name situations clearly — “Here’s what we know, here’s what we don’t, here’s what we’re trying next” — they create a culture of clarity, trust, and learning. When leaders avoid tough conversations or pretend certainty where there’s not, teams fill the gaps with fear, assumptions, or blame. Culture follows the stories people tell themselves, and leaders help drive culture and performance by improving the stories being told about what is happening and helping people make sense of it all so they can move forward together.

Vince Lombardi was a game changing coach of the Green Bay Packers. When he first became the head coach of the Packers, after being a high school coach and assistant at Fordham University, the Army, and the Giants, he was taking over for a team that went 1-10-1 in a town that most people couldn’t find on a map. But he won 5 NFL championships including Super Bowl 1 and 2, never had a losing season, and built one of the most disciplined, values-driven dynasties in sports history. Lombardi led through uncompromising standards, relentless preparation, and deep care for people, believing that excellence is built through daily habits and moral clarity — not motivation or talent alone. He once said, “The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.” Excellence is being outstanding or extremely good. Excellence is consistently doing better or more than average — or even good. Define what excellence is in your...