Below
are my notes from a speech by Brett Ledbetter at
‘What Drives Winning’ on the
importance of placing emphasis on the PERSON more than the PLAYER. You can see the video in its entirety below.
How You Are REMEMBERED As
A PERSON Is So Much More
Important, And LASTING, Than Your Stats
Key Takeaways:
1 - You can't remember who led the team in scoring 3 years ago, but you remember your favorite teacher from 10 years ago.
2 - How you are remembered as a PERSON is more important that how you are remembered as a PLAYER
3 - When helping with a problem, identifying the issue first and then finding common ground will help you find a solution.
3 - When helping with a problem, identifying the issue first and then finding common ground will help you find a solution.
In the speech
below, Brett Ledbetter talked about how he helped a star collegiate soccer
player overcome her biggest fears in sports, dealing with the expectations of
other. It helped me become a better
coach, person, and father of a young athlete (or 3) by focusing on the person
and the things you can control rather than results, which are often controlled,
in large part, to outside forces.
You can
control how hard you play, how much you prepare, and your effort level. But sometimes, you just don’t make enough of the
shots that you usually make, or sometimes the other teams just makes a few more
tough plays on you. Don’t let the outside
forces that you can’t control bother you unnecessarily; just do what you can do
and have faith that it will be good enough or that everything will work out
fine.
What Do You Need My Help With?
First identify you biggest struggles and write them down. Kelcy gave her biggest struggles below:
First identify you biggest struggles and write them down. Kelcy gave her biggest struggles below:
Brett then
asked Kelsey the following questions:
Q: Do
you feel like your identity is tied to the result?
- Yes
- Yes
Q:
Do you see how results are outside of your control because you can’t
control everything.
- Yes
- Yes
Q:
Do you see how you’re allowing something that is outside of your control
to affect the way you feel about yourself as a person?
- Yes
- Yes
That was the common ground
that they were able to reach. That
focusing solely on results allows outside forces dictate how you feel about
yourself as a person.
How You Will Be Remembered As A PERSON
Most can’t name the leading scorer in the NCAA three years ago, but you can name your favorite teacher from 20 years ago. You can also explain why you would pick that person. The top 5 reasons for them being picked as their favorite teacher:
- Challenged me
- Made learning fun
- Helpful
- Supportive
- Got to know me
Most can’t name the leading scorer in the NCAA three years ago, but you can name your favorite teacher from 20 years ago. You can also explain why you would pick that person. The top 5 reasons for them being picked as their favorite teacher:
- Challenged me
- Made learning fun
- Helpful
- Supportive
- Got to know me
For high
performing athletes, their favorite teachers are usually from when they were
young to a teacher because that teacher knew who they were before they became
who they became.
People forget
stats but remember you were as a person.
Its important to know how
you want to be remembered.
If your
meaning and purpose and identity in yourself is in the results, and you miss,
you will feel dejection. But, if your
identity is in yourself as a person, that with each failure is in the
opportunity to show all to use adversity as a way to bounce back.
Kelsey then wrote how she wanted to be remembered. It is written below, but the big emphasis was on how she wanted to be remembered as a PERSON more than a PLAYER.
When your goal is to be rembered for the PERSON that you are rather than the player, failure is okay. Its how you respond. Then, its about living a life where you bless others and living a life with a growth mindset.
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