A Coach's Diary

The most valuable lesson I learned this week is that every morning when you are choosing what clothes to wear, you should ask yourself 6 words: How do you want to feel? Erin Walsh is a celebrity stylist who also teaches on the psychology of getting dressed with intention. She said the one question she wants people to ask themselves before they go into their closet is: How do I want to feel? Most people dress for comfort or for how they want to be seen, but when you do so, you give someone or something else the power. To answer the question, Erin says 3 words are helpful: Choose 3 words that you want to feel or embody that day. Most days, Erin uses the words effortless, easy, and elegant. Finally, Erin says you need to have at least 3 pieces in your closest that you feel great about. Her 3 pieces are a great pair of jeans that make her feel comfortable in her own skin, a great white shirt that makes her feel classic, refined, and beautiful, and a black blazer that is both stylish and pr...

The most valuable lesson I learned this week is that if you want to live the life you really want, you have to learn how to pick yourself. We spend too much time waiting for someone to pick us, but we have to pick ourselves and do the work. Don’t sit and hide while waiting for someone to pick you — write the book, apply for the job, start making the videos, take the shot.  Just do the thing you want to do. But how do you know what to do? Seth said to make work that matters for people who care. It can be a little bit of work for one person — then do it again. He called it “Intentional design.” Whatever you want to do, ask two questions: Who is it for, and what is it for? Seth says the “ Smallest Viable Audience” is the smallest group of people you can make an impact on, and the “Smallest Piece of Art” is the smallest thing you can do that is worth it. Do work that matters for people who care. Don’t do it for people who don’t matter, don’t do work that doesn’t matter, and don’t do...

“You are never going to feel like it.” - Mel Robbins What is the one thing that is keeping you from doing what you know you need to do so you can live the life you want to live? Mel Robbins says there is only one rule when it comes to productivity, success, and getting everything you have ever wanted: You’re never going to feel like it. If you could learn how to do the things you don’t want to do, you could get everything you have ever wanted. The areas in your life in which you are happy, you do the work, and the areas in your life in which you aren’t happy or complaining, you don’t feel like it, so you don’t do it. So how can you coach yourself knowing that you are never going to feel like doing everything it takes to live the life you want? Use the 5-Second Rule. The second you have an idea or identify what you should do next, you have 5 seconds to take action before your brain either gets distracted or talks you out of it. Act within those 5 seconds. Those 5 seconds are the mo...

“In life, the direction that you are headed in is way more important than the speed you are moving.” - Mel Robbins Are you a thinker or a doer? Thinkers love thinking, planning, and dreaming, while doers love taking those thoughts, plans, and dreams and converting them into actions. You can’t just think your way to success; you have to get out of your head and get to work. You have to have goals and plans, but goals and plans without deadlines and consistent actions are just dreams and fantasies. Doers without plans are often busy doing a lot of things but aren’t going anywhere and aren’t being productive. Doers without plans are often the ones who say they are always busy, overwhelmed, overworked, and eventually burn out or flame out when they don’t have to. Because they are too busy doing things without plans, they often end up doing too much just so they can say they are busy. We aren’t meant to be busy; we are meant to be productive. Be a thinker AND a doer. Decide what you wa...