Courage > Result

Winners Fail | Losers Hide

This excerpt and notes are taking from the book What Drives Winning.  They have a great website and a really good Youtube page.

Its important to redefine what losing and failure is.  Take the emphasis away from the result and place it on the action.

Courage is about being willing to operate and step out of your comfort zone.

Courage has nothing to do with the outcome.  It is about being all-in.  Have a circle around you that is supportive and who value you going all in over the results. 

You have 2 options with it comes to a challenge:

1 – You can hide from it
2 – You can chase it

In life, you have 2 options when it comes to courage:

1 – You can go all-in and risk being taken out of the game for the chance to be great

Or

2 – You can eliminate the chance of being great by playing tentatively and not getting taken out of the game

Think of going all-in like a stoplight:  Imagine what it looks like to have a green light v a yellow light. 

What does it look like when you live with a yellow light?

- Scared- Tentative

- Cautious
- Worried about what is going to happen next or what somebody is going to sya

What does it look like when you live with a green light?
- Courageous
- Risk taker
- Living free
- Not concerned with what is going to happen or what people think of you
- No regret

Play Green by finding your comfort zone and living as much out of it as you can.  The more you are out of your comfort zone and in your courage zone, the more your comfort zone will stretch.

Don’t Be A Cosigner – of your life or of others

1 – Agreeing with someone, or a teammate, because you don’t want to upset the person

2 – Not saying anything at all

When people cosign, it is usually because:

1 – Afraid of conflict

2 – Don’t know what to say

One way to beat it is to role-play with yourself or trusted friends on what to say and how to handle a situation.  Another way to beat it is to give ‘best friend advice;’ give advice to a best friend who is going through the same situation.  

We usually have the answers within us, we just have to find it.

I once read in a book about the importance of the fences and boundaries that we set in our lives.  They keep people in and to a degree, they keep people out. You have to set boundaries for yourself on how you will allow people to treat you and what you are willing to deal with.  When someone crosses those boundaries, you have to have the courage to speak up in an appropriate and effective way.  Have courage to live the life that you want to live.